On Saying Yes + No
{September 6, 2022}
- 2 Ideas from others -
“It’s true that every time you say yes to something you’re saying no to everything else.”
- Daren Smith
American film producer, writer, creator
Definition of opportunity cost: Opportunity costs represent the potential benefits that an individual, investor, or business misses out on when choosing one alternative over another.
- Investopedia.com
- 2 Coaching Prompts -
How many times have you said “Yes,” to an event or opportunity even though there was a part of you that really wanted to say “No,”?
But you agreed to go because, “What will they think of me if I said, ‘No,’” or “I don’t want to hurt their feelings if I decline.” And then, when the date roles around there’s a hint of resentment because you, really, really don’t want to be there.
Sound familiar?
Most of you who are reading this are either a small business owner/entrepreneur, a mom with a full-time job/mom-preneur or something of the sort.
It’s arguable that you value efficiency in areas of your life and your time and attention are your most valuable resources, and auditing the seemingly “insignificant” decisions can make a massive difference in your business and lifestyle.
With that today’s prompts ask you to shift your perspective on your “Yesses,” and your boundaries:
Take a look at your calendar and find an event that you begrudgingly agreed to attend, a client that you half-heartedly said yes to, or anything event that you feel some sort of resentment toward.
(If you don’t have any, CONGRATULATIONS, you master of your boundaries, you! If that’s the case, find an event that you are excited to attend).List out what things you’ve said yes and no to because you said yes to this event. A quiet night with your family? Some alone time to work on your passion project? A needed night of socializing and networking? (Note: This isn’t to demonize or shame your decisions, it’s simply to bring awareness and a sense of responsibility and empowerment to your choices.)
- 2 Affirmations -
Today’s affirmations aren’t actually affirmations, they’re scripts you can use to politely say, “no” to things that aren’t a “Heck, yes!” for you.
“Not this time, but thank you for thinking of me!” (And don’t justify your answer. Stand tall in your answer without needing to explain.)
“No thank you, but it sounds lovely!”
- 2 Resources -
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Shortcuts App for iOS — Sorry Android and PC users, this week’s resources aren’t for you. But if you’ve drank iOS Kool-aide, prepare to have your mind blown. I’ve stumbled across the Shortcuts app and can never look back. This is the app I use to schedule out text messages when I don’t want my real estate clients to know I’m working for them at 11:00 at night, and this is how I get my Audible app to automatically open up whenever it connects to my car’s bluetooth. Mind. Freaking. Blown. You’re welcome.
Shortcuts App Tutorials — Use this, and other, tutorials to try to wrap you head around this massive app. It might take a bit, but don’t give up because (just like a business) once you figure out how to automate certain things, your life will change.
